No one ever wants to get sacked. To get sacked from work is never a pleasant experience. In some cases, individuals who get fired accept the decision by their employers in good faith.
However, in certain scenarios, the situation hovers on the extreme to the extent of involving local authorities.
Getting fired affects people differently but the effects are largely the same. Explaining the circumstances around leaving your last job could prove tough. Also, the stigma that comes with getting sacked is tremendous and in most cases, leads to depression.
Another interesting thing that happens when people get fired is the conversation around who was right and who was wrong between the sacked employee and the employer. Such conversations are known to stir up quite an interesting level of conversation with people naturally taking sides and take it a step further to justify their choices.
According to Tayo Opatayo, the Group Head, Human Resources at Rainoil Limited, it is a saddening experience in the career-life of a professional.
The truth is that some people have over the years, developed a system to move on with their career when they get sacked. For many of such people, this comes with some experience for handling such situations.
However, there are those who are devastated by losing their jobs so badly that it impacts their personal lives and careers in unthinkable ways.
For example, we have had instances of people who have committed suicide after losing their jobs as well as those who have harmed themselves as a result of job loss and sudden unemployment.
Below are some of the issues people have to deal with when they get sacked.
- Bruised Ego: There are men and women who are defined by their jobs and derive a deep sense of pride in the roles they play. This means getting sacked would greatly bruise their egos, especially when they considered their jobs a status symbol.
- Monthly income is threatened: When people get sacked, naturally, one of their biggest worries is the fact that there will no longer be monthly salary to rely upon. This is perhaps one of the biggest reasons salary earners need to find out how to save more of their salary after payday. By saving more of your salary, you have more money in your bank account to fall back on if you ever have to deal with getting sacked.
- Dependants and Loved Ones are Affected: Getting sacked has an almost immediate impact on dependants and loved ones because the income that serves their needs gets halted. It is not surprising to find a job loss heralding a crisis situation.
- Getting Stuck: One of the most devastating things that can happen to an employee who gets sacked is being unable to find his/her way back into the another job. As an example, let us look at the scenario of an employee who works in a manufacturing company for 17 years and suddenly gets fired without having any transferable skill to aid the process of getting another job. The implication? The sacked employee has a hard time finding another job. Reason? His current skill set no longer fits into the ever-evolving requirements of employers. This creates a huge problem for the affected individual.
Stemming from his years of experience as a human resource professional, Opatayo highlighted 6 things that must be done if you ever get sacked. He explained that these tips help cushion the physical and psychological trauma that accompanies getting sacked.
Below are 6 tips to help deal with the painful realities of getting sacked:
Set Up some Personal Time
One of the worst things you could possibly do after losing your job is to sulk or lock yourself up in a room reeling in moments of regret.
Rather, what you need to do is to find time for yourself. Spend the initial part of this time reflecting on how you got fired. Also, think about things you could have done differently. It’s okay to scream out in anger or cry if it helps you release some tension.
If you can afford it, you should take a short vacation and use the time to clear your head. This is a moment in your life where you need to experience inner peace.
Spend a chunk of this time doing things you enjoy; take walks, write and find a positive outlet for the emotions within you.
Listen to music that lifts your spirit and motivate you towards making the next big decision.
Avoid Emissaries of Sympathy
You might not realise it but when you get sacked is one of those moments when you find yourself getting flooded with messages and calls of sympathy from former colleagues, friends, loved ones and associates.
You need to be very careful at this point. The last thing you need is sympathy from people who have nothing but sympathy to offer.
What you need are career pointers that can help you land your next job and conversations with people who have more than pure sympathy to offer.
In Nigeria, words like “Eyah,” “Awwwwww” and “Sorry” are predominantly used.
As concerned as those who utter these words might be about you, they are words with the capacity to push you into self-pity and depression.
In essence, spend time with people who have advice that can drive you forward. It is not enough to feel sorry for you and leave it there. Sympathy will not get you another job. Neither will it inspire you to recreate yourself or your dreams.
Use the Situation as a Stepping Stone
If you ever get sacked, what happens to you afterwards is entirely for you to decide. Do not become consumed by the flames of anger, resentment, prolonged rage or a desire to hurt someone or something.
A poisoned mindset and perspective will not yield fruits that will benefit your career positively.
You might find yourself trying to compare the employer who just fired you with the one some of your previous employers but this will not help you with your next job – Will it?
On the positive side, what you might want to focus on would be your experience with the company. Walk away with the positives and find a way to channel them productively for your next job and better opportunities.
Ask Yourself Honest Questions
After you have spent some time clearing your head, it is time to carry out a self-evaluation and ask yourself some honest questions. Some of those questions can include: How far have I come with my career? What are my targets for the next two months? Do I want to start hunting for another job immediately? What are the next five moves I am going to make from this point as they relate to my career? When should I start applying for jobs?
To ensure this is not an exercise in futility, you should consider using a pen and notepad for the questions.
When you have all your questions down, proceed to proffer answers to them as sincerely as you can.
These questions and the answers you come up with will help you make decisions as you move into another phase of your life.
You need all the mental strength you can summon because it will serve as the engine room to drive your thoughts and choices.
Reach Out For Help
This is the point where you reach out to a few trusted individuals who can genuinely offer you options to choose from as you try to work your way back into your career.
Please bear in mind that you should not cultivate the habit of sharing your challenges with everyone. Rather, pick people you speak to about your fears and aspirations carefully and wisely.
The idea is to have conversations with men and women who have the capacity to help you. Many have cultivated the habit of merely listening to the problems of others without offering any practical guidance or suggestions on how to proceed.
This not the way to go. What you should do is speak to individuals who have either been in your shoes or have helped others navigate similar waters in the past. Success stories from such individuals have a way of helping you maintain a positive attitude and mindset.
When you eventually reach that point where you have to make a choice between several options, you do not necessarily need to have anyone approve or pick for you.
While you can share your plans and options with your mentors, the eventual decision rests squarely on your shoulders.
Build Your Courage
Courage is what gives you the mental wheels to ride in the wilderness of a future you cannot currently see.
It’s alright to be scared and worried about the days ahead but courage will fortify your resolve and keep you from throwing in the towel.
Interestingly, we should let you understand that in a number of situations, getting fired is no fault of yours and should be considered inevitable.
The beauty of losing a job is the plethora of possibilities it throws open.
When you get sacked, it simply means that you have a chance to get another job. For many, this has turned out to be a blessing in disguise.
History is riddled with people who got fired but went on to become supremely successful in their respective careers.
What Next?
To be candid, losing a job is an opportunity to either get a better job or find out other very lucrative things you can do.
As Opatayo put it in his article, ‘Surviving Job Sack,’ “we are not what happens to us.”
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you had to decide between waiting to get sacked or resigning? What did you do and what happened afterwards?
